April 6, 2012

Let’s talk about rejection, failure and pain. The other day I was a bit bummed out because I faced a minor rejection. Although I could argue on a mental level that it was logical and didn’t matter, on an emotional level I had a hard time not taking it personal and felt unmotivated. So I was having a little pity party of my own.

No seriously.

I threw a pity party for me and my imaginary friends. I made a little paper hat for Lars, put on a happy beat and prepared a party cookie wishing many more rejections so I can become an even stronger person than I am today.

Because at one point I realized you should celebrate every rejection you get. It means you were vulnerable enough to put yourself out there. The more it hurts, the bigger the personal growth. It means that even though you knew you were placing yourself in an uncertain position, you were brave enough to at least try. And if it doesn’t work out the way you hoped for, that’s not something to feel sad about; it is a true sign of your awesomeness. No one will be successful in any way without trying and failing miserably a countless number of times.

Being happy is a real challenge. Because let’s face it, feeling miserable is a whole lot easier than getting yourself together and putting a smile on your face. When I was a little kid and I was sad or angry, my dad used to make me laugh. And I hated that, because I didn’t want to laugh, I just wanted to be angry and show the world how serious I was about it.

Nothing really changes. In a way we are still little kids with emotional needs. Pain only get’s a more subtle way of showing itself. Now it just happens to take forms like feeling unmotivated, being in a bad mood, feeling restless or sad.

I am not saying major life changing events don’t need time to heal. But I know that my ‘misery’ was irrelevant, useless and not in any way proportionate to what I made it into. It is in those small moments that we can choose the opposite of what we feel like, that will help us grow as a person. Because if we often turn our small moments of sadness into happiness, we will be better able to tackle the bigger pains in our life as well.

So you know what, next time you are feeling miserable, be the hero of your own life. It takes a certain amount of strength, but try to find the good in the situation and turn your place of pain into a place of power. Celebrate your failure, laugh about your mood swings and make room for positive thoughts. I know you can do it. Let’s take one small step at a time.



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    joyce matula welch

    April 6, 2012 at 21:47

    Wise words :)

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    April 7, 2012 at 02:50

    Very wise.

    Sometimes we need to have the low times to know how good the high times are.

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    April 8, 2012 at 00:26

    So motivational and inspiring! This was very nice : ]

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    April 8, 2012 at 15:00

    This post is so inspiring! I love it :) you are right on so many levels. I’m glad you shared this because I know someone will come across your blog and say: She’s right! I am awesome and this was just a test! :) Great words my friend.


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      Magical Day Dream

      April 10, 2012 at 11:49

      I hope so, I fail all the time, even in trying to carry my failure in a good way. But if I can help some others along the way, even if it is just with a little bit of hope, that would be great!

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    Hena Tayeb

    April 9, 2012 at 12:50

    That is so very brave of you and something I should start doing too.. I shrug off my rejections as if I don’t care and pretend they didn’t hurt but then I end up caring that hurt inside.. I really should just celebrate.. thank you

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      Magical Day Dream

      April 10, 2012 at 11:51

      Yeah that’s tricky. Because often somehow that hurt does need a way to come out at some time. When I can laugh about myself often the hurt just disappears, because it’s not important enough anymore..

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    April 10, 2012 at 10:25

    This is a really great post: brilliantly written and it’s nice to read some original thoughts on a topic which is so well-documented. I love your approach to life :)

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      Magical Day Dream

      April 10, 2012 at 11:53

      Thanks :) is it so well-documented? I guess I don’t know that much about it.. just sharing from my personal experience. I have read the book ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’ though, and it helped me see the important difference between pain and power..

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    Light as a Feather

    April 18, 2012 at 16:11

    I’m so happy you wrote this post, and I am even more happy that I am reading it on a day where all I want to to is host the biggest pitty party ever for myself and lay in bed all day. Even though I feel crappy, this post inspires me to feel at least a little better. Thanks!

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    Candace Jedrowicz

    November 7, 2013 at 15:02

    Brilliant! Thank you for the perspective!

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    November 7, 2013 at 17:02

    This is fantastic! I’ve never thought about creating a literal pity party, and I’m so glad that you did! It’s such a positive spin on the idea and everything you said is spot on. Being miserable IS so much easier, but I’m so much more grateful for joy.


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