Monday I felt absolutely terrible. There was no real reason, no real trigger. I just felt blue, out of the blue (ha! sorry, couldn’t resist). The seriously melancholic type where you end up almost crying in the supermarket for no particular reason.
My teenage self would wallow in her miserable feelings. But over the years I have developed as a person. And although I still feel sad sometimes (with or without a clear reason), at least I try very actively to turn my feelings around these days. One day these attempts are successful, the other not, but at least they’re there. I try to allow myself my feelings, while meanwhile turning them into something more constructive. I invite my creativity to the table, and say: “Hey, at this moment in time I feel like everything sucks. Perhaps you can do something fun with that shitty feeling, because I don’t know what to do about it.” And then my creativity doesn’t show up for the meeting and comes in an hour late saying: “Oh you already started without me?” Long story short, I decided to make a happy chart for if you feel tired, sad, miserable, hopeless, worried, dissatisfied and plain out depressed. So if you wonder how to feel better, I hope this chart provides a nice start. I even created a higher resolution, downloadable black and white version for you, which you can print out and stick on your fridge.
Colouring it in is recommended.
See it as creative therapy.
At the end of the day Joran joined for dinner at my place. I told him that his presence created a larger switch in my mood in 10 minutes than the chart had done in 2 hours. “That’s because you should put ‘hug Joran’ on your chart.” “I thought about that actually and wanted to. But that would be unfair to the people who don’t have a Joran. Also, I wanted the actions to be things you can influence yourself for 100%, rather than being dependant upon others.”
So the real secret learning point is that you should hug Joran. He gives great hugs. But if that’s not an option, then there is always this chart.
PS. Please share this post if it brought a smile to your face or if you think it might help someone you know. And please tell me in the comments what helps you to feel better when you’re feeling blue!
PPS. I feel a lot better today :)